Get Unstuck in Three Simple Steps

By Diane Dempster, Executive Coach ― It happens to most of us. Whether it’s strategic planning and moving forward with a big investment at work, or simply figuring out what color we want to paint our living room, normal feelings of indecision can come up and make it difficult for us to move forward. We get stuck. Maybe you are one of those people who take risks and make decisions with ease, but stick with me (pun intended), because I’m guessing that there are a few people on your team (or maybe in your life) for whom this sort of thing is more difficult. Here are three simple steps that can help you and your team move through those sticking points with more ease and get unstuck.

Get Unstuck: Figure out what’s really going on.get unstuck

Get curious and look at what’s happening under the indecision. Sometimes we can pinpoint our energy blocks by asking a few questions. How do I feel about this situation? Do I have any conflicting thoughts about moving forward? Have I considered all the variables under this decision? Many of the clients I work with have those small nagging fears of doubt, failure or just making the wrong decision. These fears can easily trip us up and make what seems to be a straightforward decision an agonizing argument with ourselves.

Get Unstuck: Get some perspective.

It’s so easy to get stuck in our own head looking through our own life lens! Take the time to look at the situation from a different angle. Stand on your head, cross your eyes, ask yourself what Abraham Lincoln would do in this situation? Get a second opinion, or just talk out your own if that helps. I recently heard the advice, “If it won’t matter in five years, don’t spend more than five minutes on it now.” (Good advice for the strategic planning process, right?!) Think about how important the decision is, and make sure that the energy you are giving it is commensurate.

Get Unstuck: Trust and jump.

(This is your coach, being your champion here…) You are in the position to make this decision because you are uniquely qualified to do so. And you have the intelligence, background, and discernment it takes to make the decision really well. Sometimes we don’t know whether it’s the “right” decision – we may never know, but it’s those exact times that you just have to trust and take the leap of faith.


We want to hear from you… Let us know what decisions are hardest for you, and where in your work you find you are most likely to get stuck.